Joy of
being “Married”
I need
Samit in my life, someone who is spontaneous, silly and totally unpredictable…
Contrary to what I am… I can be serious too often… Samit does not let me be
that way… He is total counterbalance to my tendency to be focused and planned…
He
plays tricks on me… like hiding inside closet, behind the bed even though he
knows I go crazy searching him…
I have
never given it much thought but boy would it be boring if he was serious,
uptight, trying to correct always, trying to be perfect always, proper always…
it would kill all the fun in our marriage… who wants a perfect husband… too
perfect is too serious… yes he is a gentleman and knows how to be well mannered…
But the fun side of his is something that keeps me alive…
I have
watched Samit laughing during these ridiculous moments, making some really
funny sarcastic statements that even shocks Kapil Sharma at times…. And I wondered why I am not that way…
I tend
to be the observer on the sidelines the one to tell the story afterwards… I am
the more deeper person… And Samit teaches me to be otherwise…
God
knows how to put two people together… When I was younger I thought I would fall
in love with this quite, brooding type – The talented artist someone so
creative… Someone whose personality would match Randeep Hooda in Highway… (Well
for the matter of fact I still find Randeep quite impressive… Hehe)… But I hope
you get the point… I imagined being with someone like a Marlboro Man, gruff and
scruffy and very manly… I was never the kind of girl who liked poster boys…. Boys
with six packs somehow always put me off… Typical was never attractive to me…
When I
met Samit, he happened to be the right combination of everything I was looking
for and wasn’t looking for…
But I
was drawn to him in an unexpected sort of way — to his unpretentiousness and
charm, to his protective and gentlemanly nature, to the ease at which we were
able to communicate, to the many similar values and spiritual perspectives we
shared, to his bent towards heroism.
But it
wasn’t really until marriage that I discovered how fun a person he was. It was
a delightful bonus.
Marriage
should be fun… Imagine being with someone for decades and decades and taking
everything so seriously? That’s probably what would have happened if I married
someone I picked! Thankfully, God chose Samit for me. He tailor-fit him to my
personality, to my strengths and weaknesses…
Being
married to Samit has taught me another way to live — to relax and enjoy a bit
of healthy silliness, to not take life too seriously, to plan but not over do it... and enjoy little things in life... as thats what makes life more worth it... I laugh more now. I crack dumb jokes…. and laugh at the silly things too...
But one
thing is for sure…I am a better version of Rashmi because God gave Samit to me.
To the
laughs we share through richer or poorer, in sickness or health….for better or
worse… These are the little things that add up and become - Joy of being married...
___________________________Rashmi (13 Jan 2015)
