Joy of being “Married”

Joy of being “Married”

I need Samit in my life, someone who is spontaneous, silly and totally unpredictable… Contrary to what I am… I can be serious too often… Samit does not let me be that way… He is total counterbalance to my tendency to be focused and planned…

He plays tricks on me… like hiding inside closet, behind the bed even though he knows I go crazy searching him…

I have never given it much thought but boy would it be boring if he was serious, uptight, trying to correct always, trying to be perfect always, proper always… it would kill all the fun in our marriage… who wants a perfect husband… too perfect is too serious… yes he is a gentleman and knows how to be well mannered… But the fun side of his is something that keeps me alive…

I have watched Samit laughing during these ridiculous moments, making some really funny sarcastic statements that even shocks Kapil Sharma at times…. And I  wondered why I am not that way…

I tend to be the observer on the sidelines the one to tell the story afterwards… I am the more deeper person… And Samit teaches me to be otherwise…

God knows how to put two people together… When I was younger I thought I would fall in love with this quite, brooding type – The talented artist someone so creative… Someone whose personality would match Randeep Hooda in Highway… (Well for the matter of fact I still find Randeep quite impressive… Hehe)… But I hope you get the point… I imagined being with someone like a Marlboro Man, gruff and scruffy and very manly… I was never the kind of girl who liked poster boys…. Boys with six packs somehow always put me off… Typical was never attractive to me…

When I met Samit, he happened to be the right combination of everything I was looking for and wasn’t looking for… 

But I was drawn to him in an unexpected sort of way — to his unpretentiousness and charm, to his protective and gentlemanly nature, to the ease at which we were able to communicate, to the many similar values and spiritual perspectives we shared, to his bent towards heroism.

But it wasn’t really until marriage that I discovered how fun a person he was. It was a delightful bonus.

Marriage should be fun… Imagine being with someone for decades and decades and taking everything so seriously? That’s probably what would have happened if I married someone I picked! Thankfully, God chose Samit for me. He tailor-fit him to my personality, to my strengths and weaknesses…

Being married to Samit has taught me another way to live — to relax and enjoy a bit of healthy silliness, to not take life too seriously, to plan but not over do it... and enjoy little things in life... as thats what makes life more worth it... I laugh more now. I crack dumb jokes…. and laugh at the silly things too...

But one thing is for sure…I am a better version of Rashmi  because God gave Samit to me.

To the laughs we share through richer or poorer, in sickness or health….for better or worse… These are the little things that add up and become - Joy of being married...

___________________________Rashmi (13 Jan 2015)