Amazing Blog ;)

Friends...

Just read this blog... Well... I am starting to become a fan of her blogs... well one because she writes her heart out "Aloud"... ek dum bindaasss....  And second she is writing something that i have been a little pissed off since last one year.. "Marriage"

 Ever since my single bells have started ringing since i striked 25... people just talk about marriage... every topic ends up in marriage...

1.  Me: Friends, I got to give you a good news!!!!
    Reply: Wow!!!! Are you hitched... Getting married??
    Me: No, I meant i got a promotion
   Reply: Ohh... we thought something else....

2. Me: Mom, I think we should get some Gold coins... Its best investment today...
    Reply: Finally my daugheter is starting to think about marriage.... :o :o... (Jesus)

3. Me (To my married friends) : I am going to Canada for a project
   Reply : Kab tak kaam karte rahegii.... Shaadi karni bhi hai ki nahii.... (C'monnnnn)

Gosshhhh!!!! .... Its a crime in the Indian Set up to be single at 25 i guess.... damnnn!!!!.... God I know even you might be wondering ... "Why are Indians so desperate to get married....".... lol....

Heres the blog I read today... amazing .... a must read for all Indians :P....

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I Am Getting Married....



Yes, you heard me right. I am getting married. I have finally found the right man God made for me. I feel on top of the world. Gosh, I cannot express what I feel. I did not know what life was like, and what did it mean to love and care, till I met him. He is sensible and so very receptive to my needs. What more could I ask for? I feel so lucky. I cannot express what I feel. I am getting married in 3 months’ time, and spending these 3 months without him is going to be a punishment, though we talk for at least 3 hours everyday...

Disclaimer: All the opinions and views in this post are my own and very personal. I do not want this post turning out to be any kind of a debating ground. These are my personal observations and you are not in any way obliged to agree with me...

With the fork suspended mid-air, our mouths and jaws dropped wide open and our eyes threateningly popping out, thanks to the sudden shock, all we could manage to do is stare stupidly, trying to take in the news. A friend is getting married. Okay, most people get married. What’s so new in that? But these typically senti senti mawkish words coming straight from a third grade eKta Kapoor K-serial was more a shock than good news.

 “Why do you need to get married so soon? You are just 24. This is the time to enjoy your life and realize your dreams. And we always thought that career came first for you. What will happen to your GRE/GATE plans now?”- we couldn’t help but ask.

“Oh, my in-laws are very supportive. They want me to write the exams (Ah, haan bol ke ehsaan kar diya). But he will be posted abroad next year.”

“Why, what does he do?”

“He is an engineer in Wipro”. You could not miss that twinkle in her eyes as she announced that seemingly important piece of information with a touch of triumph in her voice. Okay, so a very “net-table” guy has been netted at last. And an engineer with prospects of dollar salary has made a poor girl fall into the trap once again. A little digging up of info revealed the same rote but amusing facts. Software engineer. Only son. Dad owns home. The dude has been posted abroad many a times. Owns and drives a car. Loves long rides and is in need of a soulmate. And our friend is successfully convinced that it is she.

On the flip side, he is a good 8 years senior with a receding hairline and a pot belly. But then, looks aren’t everything, are they?

Gawd, how people fall into the trap. And love to remain in the trap. This friend’s story is basically the story of most females I’ve known. What more, she was going steady with a batch mate for almost 2 years now. But she suddenly realizes that this guy is a good for nothing, with no great prospects of a career or a bright future. Reminds me of Priyanka, Mr.Microsoft, and the plight of Shyam in ON@TCC.

The guy’s profession or how he manages to impress the female with his hi-fi profile is inconsequential here. What amuses me is the way women prefer to be gullible and smitten all over, as if the guy and his family have done a great favor by choosing her, and she should be grateful and servile for the rest of her life. And then, there are these inevitable things that happen-

You call her up and either her fone is engaged, or she makes it clear not to call her up at particular times of the day, since it is the time “woh” fone karenge.

You plan a get together and ask her if she is coming, and she would say, “Ruko, pooch ke batati hoon if he has other plans”. Gawd!!!! Give me some poison!!!!!

You praise the guy and you will suddenly become her best friend and her confidante.

You find her on YM, you buzz her, and she says that she is busy.

The mails she sends on the yahoo groups are all filled with praises for the guy.

You pull her leg and she will blush like a tomato.

And if you do not ask about him the next time you meet her, you will suddenly become the most rude and insensitive and jealous person in town.

I wonder how can you make someone you have barely known take charge of your life and let him decide for you what you eat and what you wear and who you meet? How can you ignore other relationships, especially friendships, and forget that it was friends who have stood by you through thick and thin? How can you suddenly ditch your classmate for someone who has a better career? And most importantly, how can you make the man decide your career and other important aspects of your life for you?

For being indebted to someone and living like a doormat is not my idea of life. Never!! Not even if the guy is the most eligible bachelor in the neighborhood!!! The marriage market follows a typical trend, especially for Bengalis. The female with a masters degree stands a better chance of finding a “better” guy than what she would do had she been a plain bachelors degree holder.

The equation for females goes somewhat like this-

B.Sc >>> B.Com>>>B.A.

M.Sc >>> B.Sc.

So what the heck, chalo do saal aur padhai kar lete hain. Lets occupy a few more seats for the next two years as undeserving candidates. Finding a job and making a life for oneself can come later on. And for guys, the equation goes like this-

Engineer + MBA (preferably from the top instis) = Excellent.

Engineer + MBA = Very Good.

Software Engineer = Good.

Simple Engineer = Still Preferable.

Doctor/ IAS Officer/Bank Manager = Good Enough.

B.Sc/M.Sc = Questionable.

Others = No Way. Learn to remain single for the rest of your life!!

So engineers still rule the market. In fact, every friend of mine seems to have found an engineer. Wipro, TCS, Synopsis, Mentor Graphics, Caritor, you just name it. I have nothing against these men. But women act as if they have suddenly bagged a windfall and have enough reasons to feel indebted to the guy for the rest of their lives.

So this friend of mine has stopped looking for a job and is spending all day either trying to look good or talking over the fone or meeting up that guy. Career plans have suddenly gone at the back of beyond. Of course she is still preparing for the entrance exams, but how far is she going to go is a very debatable issue. And in case you call her up, be prepared to hear tons of praises for the guy. Another bored housewife in the making! The jeans and the skirts have suddenly been shoved at the back of the cupboard or donated to some charity organization, to be replaced by sarees and salwar kameez, and that too of a color which is the guy’s favorite. Even if that color is fluorescent yellow! She is found in kitchen all day, learning to make food the guy loves the best.

“Wait till you meet the right man and fall in love. You will see how your life is transformed”- was all that I had to hear.

Maybe. May not be. Lets see if the right man comes. Though personally, I feel that the “right man” is a very hypothetical concept. At least a person like me in her right mind will never wait to meet the right man because of my skepticisms regarding the accepted concepts of a right man. You certainly do not need a man who would be all praises for you and would be on his knees, telling you again and again how fortunate he is to have you. Crap!!! Bullshit!!!

May be grapes are sour. Anywayz. In the meantime, let me enjoy my usual “lukkhi” self, and my single-status, meeting up with friends and having a gala time, bitching about these females and their prospective husbands and what a pain some moms-in-laws are, gawking at every good looking guy in town, exchanging conspiring glances, and catching up on all the latest gossip. Let jeans and tops rule for the time being.

And yes, I am definitely expecting to attend a lot of these marriages, having some great food, wearing some great clothes, and still hoping to espy some eye candy. As SRK rightly said in DTPH, the best thing about Indian marriages in the khaana peena. Not to mention the sweet chemistry that starts and ends between unknown faces in a matter of hours. No fone numbers or email ids, just sweet and hushed glances exchanged. And in the meantime, the all-eager-to-get-married females can definitely enjoy their comeuppance.

So you can definitely heave a sigh of relief and breathe easy now. For it is not me who is getting married at this moment!!!!


________ _________________Sunshine